I don’t like to say no… Now, I’m not talking about to my toddler because we all know he hears that word A LOT. But you get it, right? Can you get this finished by Friday? Yes. Can you do dinner on Wednesday? Yes. Can you bake something for the potluck tomorrow? Yes. Can you design my friends sister’s wedding invitations? Yes… It’s easy to get stuck in the perpetual trap of saying yes but before we know it, we are putting ourselves and our families aside to accommodate others.
I love helping others, I really really do. And surrounding yourself with good friends who are willing to return your favors is so important. But sometimes we have to say no and that’s okay. Especially when it’s unlikely that your back will be scratched in return. Entering toddlerhood with our son really put a spotlight on this for me.
A toddler needs so much of your attention that you probably don’t even give yourself everything you need. I’m talking about crawling into bed without a shower because you’re too freaking tired, skipping lunch so you can take your babe to their doctor appointment, or reheating the same crappy cup of coffee 3 times because you haven’t been able to sit down and drink it. Forget pedicures, uninterrupted meals and warm coffee. Who has time for those anymore?! Can you see how adding all of those extra things to your schedule on top of your already busy life can really take away from not only your babe but yourself? Honey, you already come in last most days. Give yourself a BREAK!
Gone are the days that you could still make a lunch date or a shopping trip work because your baby would snooze in their little infant carseat and only wake for a bottle or diaper. Now you have this little personality that runs, throws food and decides for the whole household if it’s going to be an eating day or a non-eating day.
It’s okay to say yes, too. It’s fun to grab the babysitter and go out for dinner with friends or brave the restaurant with your kids on a good day. But you also don’t have to feel guilty if you want to stay home to catch up on laundry and not totally F up your child’s bedtime in the middle of the week. To each their own.
Long story short, it’s okay to say no. Because now you have this awesome excuse we call “children” and anyone who has kids of their own will understand when you have to say no. Don’t apologize or feel bad for putting your child or yourself first.
Say no to one thing this week and take time for yourself, you deserve it.